Cheating lovers leave many signs and with a bit of detective work, you can catch your lover with sold proof. Many partners make the mistake of hiring an expensive detective or purchasing pricey spy equipment. However, if you are aware of some of the signs of a cheating lover and know your lover’s behavior and habits well, you simply need to follow your gut instinct and employ some of the top 10 ways of how to catch a cheating lover. Most of all, be patient. Give yourself 3-4 weeks of spying time.
Pay close attention to small details and use all your senses so you don’t miss a sign of a cheating lover. Make sure you keep a log book of descriptions, dates and times of all the clues you discover. If you find a clue, make a copy of it if possible. NEVER accuse him or her of an affair unless you have concrete proof there was cheating because you may have to use this proof in a court of law should you pursue divorce. If you don’t have solid proof, many cheating lovers lie and make up stories or will call you crazy. Plan your confrontation out in your mind so you will be prepared and armed with facts and evidence. If you have children, make sure they are in a safe, protected place. In addition, don’t become a cheat yourself in order to get revenge. It only causes more problems and will be used against you.
1. Set a trap. Cheating lovers usually cheat when their partner is out of town. Tell your lover that you are leaving for a couple of days and then wait, listen and watch. Place a recording surveillance device in your bedroom or near the phone and then listen. Park in a friend’s car with a hat and sunglasses on and follow your lover’s car or wait for someone to come to the house. Keep a camera, binoculars and a cell phone with you. Cheating lovers usually take their affair out for dinner and a rendezvous while you are gone. Give your cheating lover lots of space to make a mistake. Your lover will leave cheating signs unknowingly. Make sure you are “busy” or out of the house a lot while you are investigating. Take a long nap under your bed at lunch or in the evening or place a long recording digital tape recorder which is voice activated under the bed. This wouldn’t work if you have children or a dog.
2. Watch his or her cell phone. A sign of a cheating lover can be if he or she protects their cell phone with a password, so unexpectedly ask to borrow the cell phone to make an important call. Then make a fake call, pressing as many buttons of the call log as possible to note any strange calls. Go to bathroom with the phone if at all possible. Watch whether the cell phone is always turned off when with you or whether he or she takes unusually long to phone you back. Note the times, dates and length of any suspicious calls. Press the re-dial on the phone or *69. This is an effective way to find out who they’ve been calling.
3. Place a long-recording digital tape recorder under your cheating lover’s car seat every morning and then listen to it when you are alone. Please check the laws in your city or state to make sure it is legal to record someone in your car if they are borrowing it. The same goes for a GPS tracking device which tracks everywhere your lover’s car goes. GPS tracking devices are now made the size of a pack of chewing gum so they are easy to hide.
4. Monitor your lover’s computer usage. Does he or she use the computer late at night or for an unusual amount of time? Cheating lovers frequently utilize free email services such as hotmail, msn, yahoo, gmail, hushmail, etc… Check the internet web browser history for warning signs. If you suspect your lover is cheating, you can install a keystroke logger which will log every keystroke your lover types, including the passwords. There are many good ones currently for sale.
5. A sign of a cheating lover could be if he or she is frequenting any dating sites, in which case create a fake profile on-line of someone you think your lover would be attracted to and then start flirting. Many partners have successfully used this technique.
6. Be careful of your cheating lover’s close friends who may cover for him or her because of loyalty feelings. Even if they don’t approve of your lover’s cheating ways, they may still cover for the cheating by providing an alibi.
7. Set booby traps in your house. If you think your cheating lover may be bringing someone into your home while you are traveling or out, set some traps. Put on a clean set of sheets and then place a crumb on the bedspread. Make sure that a dog or cat doesn’t move it. Then check to see if the crumb is still in the same place after your return.
8. Get your friend’s to help. Sign up a willing acquaintance or friend to hit on your lover at a pre-determined location to see if he or she will bite. It is helpful if they carry a tape recorder in their purse so you may hear the conversation.
9. Monitor your lover’s driving habits for a month. Watch for increase in gas receipts and monitor the car’s odometer to see if there are extra unexplained miles on the car. Monitor the time they leave for work and the time they come home. You should be able to establish a pattern by keeping a calendar and noting the times. If your lover claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify any overtime. If your lover explains a late return home as a result of having to drive out of town on business, yet the mileage on the car indicates less than ten miles driven, you’ll have caught your cheating lover in a lie which may be due to adultery.
10. Paper signs of a cheating lover can include unexplained receipts, more frequent ATM withdrawals, and unexplained credit card charges. Note any strange dates and times. Is there a restaurant charge when they should have been at work? Check the business deductions if possible.
If you have tried some of the above tips on how to catch a cheating lover and have been unsuccessful, try playing your poker face. Pretend like you know something and give him or her 24 hours to come clean or else… however, only resort to this after you have tried all other means because if you accuse him or her, your lover will know you are on to them, deny any wrong doing and cover any cheating tracks better next time.
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